by dabblelicious

Question: Married only a few months and bored already…?
I’ve been married for only 7 mos. and already I’m bored not so much with my husband and maybe not even the marriage but with us as a couple we do the same thing day in and day out, its so predictable and hum drum I could just die. There’s no romance in our relationship, I guess I want the fairy tale type romance type novel stuff to happen between me and him, what I really want is to come home to a clean house {that I didn’t have to clean by myself!}; and find a nice romantic dinner on the table with candles burning and soft music playing it would be nice to have a nice romantic dinner { a dinner that I didn’t have to prepare or one that I don’t have to clean up after}. In addition to that I would love to find rose petals strewn across our bed with candles lit as the only light and more romantic music playing, and being led to the bathroom where a milk bubble bath awaits me to soothe away my days worries and after that to be read wonderful poetry to and to have soft sensual love made to me. Now I ask you is that too much to ask, I realize those things are things that happen to women who are characters in a romance novel or a t.v. movie, but I work hard 7 days a week my husband works the usual 5 and all we do is the same ol’ boring things we do go out to dinner and we go shopping for clothes and shoes together {we both have a shoe and clothes fetish}; and when the weather is nice here in cold ugly San Francisco we go out at night for walks {I think thats romantic}; unfortunately we don’t have a working automobile right now so were limited in our travels. Not to mention the fact that we didn’t have a honeymoon because A) We couldn’t afford it right after the wedding B) When we did get ready to go a few months later my mom got diagnosed with Lung Cancer so that took care of that, and here we are 7 mos. after marriage and I’m bored to tears, I keep telling him I want more romance but he doesn’t know how to give me what I want, he tries and I applaud him for that but honestly it just isn’t working, I want the spontaneous romance and he’s just not capable of doing that, I was thinking of getting him the book “Romance for Dummies” but I honestly don’t know if that will even help because if it ain’t in ya’ it just ain’t in ya’ ~ Without sounding cruel and harsh to my plight can anyone suggest anything that may help this situation….!

Just to clarify romance has absolutely nothing to do with sex to me they are two different things of course romance can lead up to sex, just thought I would clarify that before yall start answering….!

Answer:

Answer by My cat Jake owns me
Hey, I was helping you when you were planning your wedding, and I´m here for you for the hard part-the marriage.

I too sometimes get bored, but I don´t think it´s my husband´s fault but I can get bored with life in general. Work on yourself-take up a hobby, volunteer, become a great pen pal, anything to keep you occupied.

Watch the video of your wedding or pull out wedding pictures and go over those memories-if it´s anything like ours, it draws us closer and when we listen to the minister it reminds us of the commitment we made.

Oh, and try to rent the movie “Fireproof” I´ve never seen it but it´s supposed to be a great Christian movie about relationships!!! Here´s the link to watch it on your computer:

http://tvshack.net/movies/Fireproof__2008_/a:7364/

Cat kisses to you-don´t give up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!